You are at the mall and you have just seen the
proverbial girl of your dreams. The time has finally
come. The months you have spent lurking in your
house learning every form of seduction ever created
by man are at last going to pay off. Routines stacks,
you know them all. NLP, pshh it has become like your
second language. The hilarious thing is you have
even mastered natural game, so you do not even
need to rely on technique. Yes my friend, this is in
the bag! There is nothing you do not know about
flirting with girl and creating massiveattraction, this
should be a walk in the park.
You approach and a funny thing starts to happen
though. Your heart starts beating faster, you start to
sweat a little and you develop a very small nervous
twitch. You awkwardly walk up to her and quickly
spout out the best routineyou know, layered with
hypnotizing word patterns and everything you have
ever learned packed into it. You SAY it perfectly, but
you are speaking WAY to fast. Then the impossible
happens, the girl starts to get nervous and
uncomfortable like you are painful to be around.
Within moments she ejectslike you are a walking
STD. How could this happen? You literally KNOW
everything! Well, there is still one thing you have
failed to master. Understanding on how to relax when
you are talking to a girl.
This is one of the biggest stealth killers of attraction
and is getting guys devastating blows left and right
outs without them even realizing why. This is simply
because it is rarely mentioned in any form of detail in
PUA teaching. However, if you watch any great pick
up artist they all incorporate it with near perfection.
Whether you are watching Neil Strauss, Tyler Durden,
or Adam Lyon they all perfectly relaxed and
comfortable in a set. It almost seems like they have
done it a thousand times. (Oh wait they have!)
So why is this so important? The cold hard truth is
that people can sense how you are feeling by how
you are acting pure and simple. The keyword there is
HOW you are acting, not what you are saying. If you
are incredibly nervous your emotional state will
literally be pushed onto people around you and you
will not be able to perform any type of game. Girls
have to be relaxed to some extent if they are going to
be aroused. Have you ever talked to someone that
was stressed out, panicky, and nervous? Can you
remember how you wanted to get away from them as
fast as possible? This is exactly what you do to
women when overlook incorporating relaxation into
your skill set.
This seems like one of the most blatantly obvious
tips, but it is because of simplicity that is so often
overlooked. When men get into PUA they make the
fatal mistake of focusing on advanced techniques
when they should be learning the basics of simply
having a conversation of a stranger. This is like a kid
mastering how to kick flip his skateboard, while
ignoring learning how to ride it down the street. In
the end guys end up just like the kid on the
skateboard. They have a cool new trick, but they
cannot do anything with it because they can't do
something as basic as comfortably being able to say
hi to a stranger.
I am not here to tell you are doomed to a life of
rejection and awkward moments, though, far from it.
There is a way to overcome this hurdle that helped
me immensely when I first got into learning how to
flirt with a girl. Luckily, it is a pretty simple solution,
however it takes some courage. To start becoming
more relaxed in set there is an extremely common
sense solution: start doing as many sets as possible
and makes an active effort to keep them
uncomplicated. That is right, put down your PUA
books and courses for a bit! Keep it simple. You may
not know this, but this is how EVERY great pick artist
learned to be comfortable talking to women. After
thousands of approaches it becomes almost
impossible for them not to be totally at ease.
You are probably thinking duh, I know this. News
flash! Every guy knows this deep down, but 95% of
them fail to ever do it. Guys want to start winning
right away, and in PUA there is a steep learning curve
at first. You are going to have to learn to be
comfortable with the basics (and occasionally falling
on your butt) before you can become a seduction
master or the next Dos Equis guy.
So the next time you are out, do not wait to till you
see the glamour model of your sensual dreams.
Approach the first 10 girls you see, and just say hi
while carrying on a light conversation. Only then
after those 10 approaches will you be socially
comfortable enough to start practicing all the
advanced techniques you been studying for the past
year. So chill, breathe, and learn stop repulsing
women with your nervousness before anything else.
Only when you are comfortable talking to a girl will
you then be able to seduce her. Or you could simply
stick to Plenty of Fish PUA =D.
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